The Paradox of Common and Uncommon In Work and Relationships

There is an interesting paradox I've been sitting with, especially in regards to work.

Marriages, workplaces and other relationships can be especially powerful when there is something in common. Common purpose, common belief, common commitments. It just seems kind of obvious that the energy and effectiveness of our organizations and institutions increases when people are on the same page. But what about when they're not? 

A friend of mine brought to my awareness the possibility that our workplaces and our personal relationships could instead be big enough to hold a dynamic tension, where each of the purposes and dreams of the individuals has room to breathe and be, all the while working towards shared goals and purposes. Not only that unity does not equal uniformity, but it is possible for there to be a synergy in relationships and organizations that exceeds even the capacity of being on the same page. 

I don't know that I'm any closer to elucidating how to create that dynamic space, but my eyes, ears and heart are open. 

What do you think? 

Why are common beliefs and commitments so powerful and so important? 

How do we totally and deeply share values while also remaining profoundly open to the unique passions and perspectives of others? 

How do we do all of this without compromising our own identity or asking for others to conform? 

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, as well as your questions. 

With curiosity, 

Benjamin FaderComment